At some point in life sooner or later we all face challenges, adversity, problems, failure and hardships. Hard times will be there for days and weeks and months and may be years. It becomes so difficult for us to believe that these hard times will ever pass and the way out of it becomes hard to even visualize.
The challenges in life are what makes us stronger and a better person to handle the next round of hard times. If life were easy, what is the whole point? If everything is in our reach then no one would have aim for the moon in the first place.
“WHEN THINGS ARE BAD, WE TAKE COMFORT IN THE THOUGHT THAT THEY COULD ALWAYS BE WORSE. AND WHEN THEY ARE, WE FIND HOPE IN THE THOUGHT THAT THINGS ARE SO BAD, THEY HAVE TO GET BETTER”
( Malcom S. Forbes )
Difficult and hard times are free of charge lectures ,at the end of which you come out as a strong, determined , capable and a much better person. The strongest steel is forged from the hottest fire, the more heat it faces the stronger it gets. Everything in this world faces adversity, even a tiny seed, a tree, a bird or a butterfly!!
To each and every problem there is always a solution, problem itself asks you ” What do you want from me now?” and before giving up and loosing hope always remember this simple fact “THIS TOO SHALL PASS”
It is said an Eastern monarch once charged his wise men to invent him a sentence, to be ever in view, and which should be true and appropriate in all times and situations. They presented him the words: “And this, too, shall pass away.” So happy times or worst times ,its TIME and time never remain the same. Here are some simple suggestions that might help you to pass through the hard times.
Stop considering your self as a victim , if you start asking yourself “Why Me” you will eventually build up an idea that may be this life is what you deserve and you will be wasting your time which you could have spend on moving forward and trying to figure out a way out. Instead of thinking why this is happening to you, think how to get out of this situation.Always keep in mind that adversity and hardships causes some people to break and some to break records, so focus on breaking records.
“THE WORLD BREAKS EVERYONE, AND AFTERWARDS,SOME ARE STRONG AT THE BROKEN PLACES.”
No matter how big the situation is, its always something that you can handle. Never think of your problems as huge monsters that can not be dealt with. Never exaggerate your challenge. If you want to free yourself of misery and pain than evaluate your problem, either you will come with a simple solution or the problem itself will get fixed.Often when we look at ourselves in the mirror, we wonder “How the heck did I make it through that?” It’s that little thing called SURVIVAL…..More times than not…you’ll be ok and end up stronger than before after all “WHAT DOESN’T KILL US MAKES US STRONGER”
“EVEN THE DARKEST NIGHT WILL END AND THE SUN WILL RISE”
Always have faith and patience. Stop worrying all the time and trust that Allah is watching and that He has better plans for us.
“WHEN WORLD PUSHES YOU TO YOUR KNEES, YOU ARE IN A PERFECT POSITION TO PRAY”
Always keep smiling, which I know is the most hardest thing to do in difficult times, but it has many benefits. It not only decreases the negative feelings but also avoid you an explanation to other asking “what is wrong? Is everything Okay?? ” Surrounding your self with positive people also help. Being continuously surrounded by negative people who will listen to your problems and pain without any positive interest at heart will make your situation much more worse. Instead of pouring your heart out to negative people wait to share it with those who not only will understand but will help you to get through bad times.
Don’t hold your thoughts, keeping your thoughts and not sharing it with others will effect your health both mentally and physically. Sharing your problems with others, letting it all out help to decrease a pressure from your chest, the listener might not be able to give you an advise on the whole situation, but it surely gives you a chance to see your problems from a different angle.
And finally give yourself time to heal, spend some time alone before getting back in action to face the world. There is no need to be super powerful and be in “I’M OKAY” phase all the time.Don’t rush the healing process, as old wounds open easily. Take time to yourself to think and process what you have just been through. If you rush back out into the world and move too quickly there are a lot of chances that you will fall apart at the seams and be right back where you started emotionally. If you’re not healthy emotionally, you won’t be physically either.
“THE BATTLE OF LIFE IS, IN MOST CASES, FOUGHT UPHILL; AND TO WIN IT WITHOUT A STRUGGLE WERE PERHAPS TO WIN IT WITHOUT HONOR, IF THERE WERE NO DIFFICULTIES THERE WOULD BE NO SUCCESS; IF THERE WERE NOTHING TO STRUGGLE FOR; THERE WOULD BE NOTHING TO BE ACHIEVED”